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Have you ever felt really pissed off and NOT wanted to forgive someone!

I have just come back from a trip to New Zealand.  It was an opportunity to catch up with my wonderful family and we did some hiking (us Kiwi’s call it tramping) in the Abel Tasman, which has to be the most spectacular place in the world.
 
In these idyllic unhurried surroundings we got to chat and some of my family were going through some stuff which was causing them to be really angry.  In some circumstances feeling wronged and really upset by the event.  I can totally relate to this feeling where you do not want to let it go or god forbid forgive that person.
 
The problem is the person who suffers the most is YOU, the person reliving the event.  Often we are not even aware that we are holding on to the resentment.

 Here are some of the signs: 1. If you need to have social contact it becomes awkward and you can feel physically sick. 2. When you are alone and your mind drifts back to replaying the event and you feel tension in your body.

To forgive someone brings peace rather than holding on to pain
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Here’s how I let go.

1. I get selfish and choose peace over pain so I do not feel bad.

2. I choose to practice tolerance.  The Dalai Lama says “ In the practice of tolerance ones enemy is the best teacher.

3. I find trying to understand what the other person may be going through or their upbringing helps.

4. I also think about if I do not let this go it may be bad news for my health.  This can be really dangerous as that festering resentment can turn into something worse sickness and disease.  You have heard that saying “worried sick”.

So next time you are feeling really pissed off and cannot let it go trade peace for pain and FORGIVE .
 
I would love to hear how you let go of resentments? Come across and share www.focusonliving.com.au

Exciting heads up next week  I have a special guest post on Hypnotherapy from Dr. Amanda Hordern.  How this can help  overcome  fears, anger  and even weight loss so …stay tuned… and  no there is no clucking like a chicken.

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